Ways to Love a Child

Give your presence more than your presents. Laugh, dance and sing together. Listen from a heart-space. Encourage. Understand. Allow them to love themselves. Say “yes” as often as possible. Say “no” when necessary. Honor their “no’s.” Apologize. Touch gently. Build lots of blanket forts. Open up.

Fly kites together. Lighten up. Believe in possibilities. Read books out loud. Create a circle of quiet. Teach feelings. Share your dreams. Walk in the rain. Celebrate mistakes. Admit yours. Frame their artwork. Stay up late together. Eliminate comparison. Delight in silliness. Handle with care. Protect them. Cherish their innocence. Giggle. Speak kindly. Go swimming. Splash. Let them help. Let them cry. Don’t hide your tears. Brag about them. Answer their questions.

Let them go when it’s time. Let them come back. Show compassion. Bend down to talk to children. Smile even when you’re tired. Surprise with a special lunch. Don’t judge their friends. Give them enough room to make decisions. Love all they do. Honor their differences. Respect them.

Remember they have not been on earth very long.

(author unknown)



2 thoughts on “Ways to Love a Child

  1. I cried when I read this, because my childhood, and even my life now, seem to consist alomost solely of events which are the entire opposite of what is written here.
    I still wonder, every single second, whether I am real.

  2. You are real enough to have cried real tears over this entry. I know what you mean about crying when you read it; they say you can’t miss what you’ve never had, but I don’t believe it. The absence of love during our growing up years can be a nearly inconsolable loss.

    I do hope you can go through some healing and find true blue friends, even one true blue friend, to help you “paddle your boat.” (That’s in reference to my last post entitled, “Drifting.”)

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